Gossip, what are we doing when we partake??
There were at least 8 of us in the room, the mood of the “bible study” had turned as sour as a lemon. Somehow we had gotten off the topic of whatever it was that we were studying in the bible, and began to gossip. The entire room knew better, we all were in “ministry” in some capacity. I sat for a couple of hours and took part in something I should have ran from, but the pull to get my 2 cents in won the battle of virtue. Although many years have past, I will forever remember what I was drinking, where I was sitting, and who we were discussing. The topic fails my memory, but the sting of sin I will not soon forget. We left that night appeasing our sense of pride, but as the drive home wore on, we were sickened by the destruction of our words.
LADIES, LADIES, LADIES,
What are we doing with our mouths? As women we are all drawn to the juicy details of someones failing life or relationship. Why do our ears all perk up when we hear someone misfortune or the avenue of their life is not promising. And above all ladies, why do we share it? Numerous times myself, I have felt the sting of hearing someone has been gossiping about me. Numerous times, wondering if the person who’s perception was negative about me knew me at all. Have you ever felt the sting? I know most of you probably have, so why, then, do we continue to bash our so-called
Galatians 5:15 says this,
But if you bite and devour one another, take care that you are not consumed by one another.
We are consuming each other. We are doing it, one juicy detail at a time. I know this is the cause for much pain in our female world today. We are killing our integrity with each whisper.
God says in Ephesians 4:29,
Let no corrupt word proceed our of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.
I am struck by the example of Jesus. The Pharisee’s were so ticked at Jesus because He had the audacity and capacity to change the face of sin and redemption, and they didn’t like it. I can see them now in their fancy temple talking about what they would like to do to Him, and how they were going to do it, all the while looking for the Savior. I can hear them taunting Him behind His back after He healed on the Sabbath, or after the prostitute came in and washed Jesus’s feet with her hair. The “strength” that they derived from each others words put the very Savior they were looking for on that old rugged cross. Gossip creates the illusion of power by the perpetrator. It manufactures the idea that if the one it is shared with listens and agrees it is justified. Therefore, giving the practice an addictive nature. Satan wants nothing more for us to crucify each other behind their backs. He seeks only to steal, kill, and destroy. When we participate in gossip the righteousness that you may seek is stolen. Not to mention the slaying of respect to the victim. God speaks vividly and often about the fruit of our mouths. Are you imparting grace, or destruction?
I have thought about that night often. Why didn’t we stop the blood bath? We could have, but chose not too. After that night, my heart changed, God taught me a valuable lesson, NO PIECE OF GOSSIP IS WORTH THE DESTRUCTION IT CAUSES. I am not perfect, but committed. I ended up apologizing to a party involved, and have sense committed to not be apart of the poison. If you are not part of the problem or the solution it is gossip. Won’t you commit with me?