I will never forget the night.  It was a spring night, nice outside, but cold as ice inside the conference room where the meeting was held.  There I sat with a group of men in a meeting that for sure was going to be remembered by my feeble mind forever.  Words flew like swords at me.  I sat.  I was speechless.  Every time someone else took a turn I began to fidget, knowing the possibility of the things coming from his mouth would deteriorate my spirit even more.  Lots of things were said that night, but the one line I will never forget was, “Autumn, if you do this, God will never use you.”  That phrase lingers in my mind some 10 years after the incident.  I sit today confident that that man was utterly and completely mistaken.  He has no idea that regularly that phrase has entered my mind.  He chose to speak for the Almighty God, and God can speak for Himself.  I left the meeting shredded in my spirit by men, but strengthened by my God Who had led me to that very meeting.


WORDS…………..The weight we carry we do not comprehend.  They have the power to change life, encourage, strengthen, but they also have the same power to steal joy, kill spirits, and destroy the innocent.  They can single handedly give you favor even honor, and the next breath take it all away.  If you have read the Proverbs at all you will know it is saturated with scripture referring to the mouth. Proverbs 6:2 says it like this, “You are snared by the words of your mouth; you are taken by the words of your mouth.” Or maybe we resonate better with Proverbs 8:8 which says, “All the words of my mouth are with righteousness.” Or just maybe this one found in Proverbs 10:32, “The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable, but the mouth of the wicked what is perverse.” Proverbs 21:23 is also a great one that says simply this,” Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles.” (I like to use this jewel when counseling teen girls!)


Thinking of that spring night in that meeting all these verses come to mind, could he not have simply refrained from speaking.  I tell you this because we have some major diarrhea of the mouth going on.  I cannot believe when people come seeking advice, most of their hurts are caused by what someone has said to them, or about them.  In a culture where we have this “get over it” mentality, and sarcasm is the norm in almost every mouth, we have forgotten the damage that comes from being frivolous with one of the most valuable tools God has given us, our mouth.  The old adage, “Think before you speak” is actually brilliant advice and scriptural.  We as women need to get back to seeing others as God sees them.


I have saved my favorite proverb for last.  Proverbs 18:21 says, “Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”


I have mouth problems too, it used to be a HUGE problem of mine, and I loved to zing people with just the right phrase at the right time.  But now that I know that being involved in the torment of someone else’s mind for possible years is not worth the zing.


Ladies that I love, GUARD YOUR MOUTHS!

Mean Girls

So if you are reading this, I am thinking you are either a teen girl, in charge of a teen girl, or like teen girls.  Well whatever the reason friends, we have a problem.   I just left Lynchburg, VA. I am actually on the plane now, and I was listening to the news and would like to address an teen girl issue.  Now I realize that some of you are totally innocent of what I am about to say, but some of you girls might not be.


When I turned on the TV this morning I heard of a young female high school student that was another victim of a lie.  She bought the lie that it is better to die, than to go to school and face the bullies.


The story is as follows:  The victim was a pretty girl in high school, and she caught the eye of the caption of the football team, and another handsome young man.  She dated them both, and after the breakup she was rebuked by the girls that hated her because of it, and the 2 boys involved who played along with the sick game because no doubt their pride was hurt.  The news made it seemed like it was a pretty rough situation because complaints had been made to the faculty and resulted in no action. The young victim walked home a few days ago with no hope.  She had been called every sick and twisted name in the book.  She had been yelled at publicly, she had been ridiculed for being her.  She went home, while texting a friend that she was done with everything, she hung herself.  She’s gone.  Forever.  The kids involved in the ABUSE face criminal charges.


I sat in the recliner at my sister’s house sick to my stomach.  Where was this beautiful child’s soul that it was so destitute that she felt without help?  My spirit grieved by the story, had to bring a couple of things to light.


First, dear sweet beautiful girls, if this is you there is hope!  Do not buy the lie that there isn’t.  Contact me and I will get you help!  Second, if you think you might be slightly bullying someone, STOP NOW.  You don’t know what the end result could be.

If you know you are a bully, please realize this, what you decide to be at a young age WILL affect you for the rest of your life.  How do you want to be known?  What dear child is the point of making someone else’s life miserable?  You can stop, you can even apologize, and you can become amazing women that are respected for the right reason, not because you are a “mean girl”.


Why am I so passionate about this??????????????  Because we need to stick together as women!  Young women, old women, tall women, short women.  Our God made us all, and we can help each other out.  As a matter of fact we need to help each other out.  Think of what it would be like if we actually stopped this elementary behavior and decided to be women of Worth?  It’s not just the teen that deals with this now, its adults too.


Please, lets do our parts.  We have ONE go around on this earth, what do you want yours to look like?

Our life as of Now

Our life as we know it


The Miles life as some of you know has been insanity this year!  We lost my father in law in January, have dealt with the incredibly complex legal system, been to court twice, have seen incredible health issues, and have recently seen a layoff.  All the while trying to create a business as usual front for our kiddos.  It has been challenging!!!  Not easy, but if you have known us for any amount of time you probably know that God always has something crazy going on in our family.  I have seen some low days this year.  I think I have exercised every emotion known to the human race to capacity.  We have been weak.  BUT please know that in our pain our GOD has shown Himself in incredible ways.  We are so grateful to experience the miracles of God right before our eyes.  Truly when we are weak ( to the tune of the great Apostle Paul ) He is strong!!!


Many of you have asked about our next step due to the layoff at Cornerstone last month, and I thought this would be a great time to start the blog Eddie has had set up for me forever, but I never touched.  It ain’t fancy people, but I will keep it updated for ya. Some of yall have the bomb blogs, all sparkled and stuff.


First of all,  we are doing fine.  We have good days and bad days, but we see the hand of God.  We know that He is the Master of our lives. He alone allows the circumstances we encounter.  We choose to trust His hand, not our emotion of the day.  We are confident in His intimate, perfect, detailed, plan for our lives.  He has fashioned the events of the year so perfectly that the successes would not have been possible without the heartache.  We know that He is working in a great way to accomplish His purpose.


We praise God for the fact that churches are interested in our ministry.  Eddie has talked with many churches, and we are prayerfully walking through the open doors.  We stop when the door closes.  It is amazing to hear him give clear vision for youth ministry on the phone!  I get so proud that I am married to a man who gets it!!  He loves his God, and loves Gods people!!  I am blessed to share a life with a man who is compassionate.  I will let ya know when we see Gods clear leading to our new home.


We did have someone walk through the house.  Haven’t heard anything, but Eddie and I were praying that morning about selling our house specifically, and it was awesome that God blessed our prayer with a little bit of interest!


My dad is doing better.  He did just have heart surgery so recovery pretty much sucks.  But Doctor says his heart is healing well, and they have seen no blood clots!!  Which is so great! His heart rhythm is not quite back to normal, but much better than it was!  My dad is amazing, besides my husband, he is the man we look to for the wisdom in our life.  His perspective is always three words of genius.  That’s all he has to say like three words, and he changes our perspective.  I am so blessed to have him and my mom.  They awesome!


I want say that although I was shocked with the layoff, God gave me the most awesome scripture which is found 2 Chronicles 20:1-30.  I am gonna speak somewhere someday on this passage, it’s awesome.  But basically King Jehoshaphat and Judah his kingdom were getting ready to get annihilated by three groups of people.  The trial was great.  They were scared.  So the King and his people prayed.  Without the Lords help there were for sure going to be defeated, but they prayed.  They remembered their God, they sought His face and forgot their own.  They humbled their hearts before His, and prayed.  And God answered through a prophet and said, “Fear not ye, neither be dismayed by reason of this great multitude; for the battle is not yours, but God’s. vs. 17 You will not need to fight in this battle: set yourselves, stand ye still, and see the salvation of Jehovah with you.


He will do the same for us.